***Persuasion Techniques***
Language and communication are the keys to successful discipline. The language patterns a
parent or teacher uses when disciplining children influence behavior. When we control the
messages we send to children, we control the way children feel and think about our messages;
when we control the way children feel and think about our messages, we control their behavior.
Carefully chosen words and crafted messages can actively create the mental images and mood
needed in children to move them away from noncompliance and oppositional behavior and
closer to comply with what we asked them to do. When we persuade children to behave, we
control their behavior through language, using influence rather than power and domination.
Effective persuasive discipline means that we are able to communicate using just the right words
to get the positive outcome we intended. Persuasive discipline contains specific language
patterns and ways of talking to children to shift the emotional state of the child so that we
influence and promote positive behavioral change.
Persuasion Technique 1: Assume That What You Want is True
If you talk and act as if what you want is true, your child will believe you. When we assume
something, we send the message to the child that he or she already wants to do what we are
asking; for example, asking, “Do you want carrots or celery?” assumes that the child wants and
will eat one of these two vegetables.
Persuasion Technique 2: Use Positive Directions
When we use positive directions, we get higher compliance than when we use negative
directions. Negative directions tell children what not to do; “Don’t make noises,” or “Don’t hit
your little brother” are examples of negative directions. On the other hand, positive directions tell
children what they need to do to comply. Work in changing the negative directions you give
children into positive directions. Shapiro (1994) recommends that we write down the negative
directions we typically say in one column, and then, in a second column, we change those
statements into directions that tell the child, in a very specific way, what he or she should be
doing instead. Always describe what you want in positive terms; for example, “Talk in a quiet
voice” rather than “Stop shouting.”
If you need more example you can mail me or follow a few of the links below
All Behavior is Communication: How to Give Feedback, Criticism, Corrections, and Reprimands that Teach Appropriate Behavior http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/19966 Emotional Communication: Healing Children’s Troubled and Angry Feelings with Empathy and Rapport http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/19894 Nonverbal Communication in the Classroom: Making Your Point Without Saying a Word http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/22578 Enhanced Psycho-Educational Interventions for Teachers: Child Guidance Skills for Managing Crises and Fights http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/23139 School Help: A Teacher and Tutor eGuide to Help the Older Student with Limited Listening Comprehension http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/30328 School Help: A Teacher and Tutor eGuide to Help the Older Student with Limited Vocabulary Knowledge http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/35743 School Help: A Teacher and Tutor eGuide to Help the Older Student with Limited Word Reading Fluency http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/36031 School Help: A Teacher and Tutor eGuide to Help the Older Student with Limited Math Skills